Silently Seduced

Through new findings and expanded discussions on 'engulfment,' 'excessive guilt,' 'loyalty,' and 'narcissism,' and others, Silently Seduced offers a framework to understand covert incest and its effect on sexuality, intimacy, and ...

Silently Seduced

When a parent singles out a child for special privileges and attention, that child is often unaware that the relationship is unhealthyeven incestuous. As adults, these children struggle to feel validated, because while they have not been directly abused, they feel a sense of violation and crossed boundariesusually done in the name of 'love' and 'caring.' The parent's love feels more confining than freeing, more demanding than giving, more intrusive than nurturing. Yet these children suffer from what psychologist Kenneth Adams calls The Silent Seductionbecause there is nothing loving or caring about a close parent-child relationship that services the needs of the parent rather than the child.

Sexual Addiction Wisdom from The Masters

Ken: Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners. I've also written a book called When He's Married to Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment. Silently Seduced is for men and ...

Sexual Addiction  Wisdom from The Masters

This ebook shares the wisdom from the most prolific sexual addiction experts in the world talking about sexual addiction, shame, trauma, trauma reenactment, partner betrayal, partner pain, love addiction, and other issues that contribute to compulsive sexual acting out. Two of the chapters include Patrick Carnes who founded the Sexual Addiction Recovery Movement and Claudia Black who helps Partners of Sex Addicts regain their equilibrium from this traumatic disorder. This book simplifies the principles that make recovery possible for anyone who has been affected by sexual addiction. If you believe that you have a sexual addiction or you love someone who suffers from this addiction, you will benefit from reading the recovery tasks that will take your life to the next level!

Ready to Heal E Book

In his book, Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners, psychologist and author, Ken Adams describes this in the following way: "The parent motivated by loneliness makes the child a surrogate partner.

Ready to Heal E Book

It's no surprise that our culture is addicted to "love." The sappy love songs, the enticing ads for romantic getaways and the desire to be cherished by a special someone will never lose their appeal. But for some women, this poses a significant problem. Because of their insatiable desire for love, they will do anything to find it and ultimately land in destructive addictive relationships over and over again causing incredible harm. This newly revised and expanded edition of Ready to Heal provides an opportunity for women to break free from painful addictive relationships. Kelly McDaniel provides the reader with the tools they will need to move along the path to living a life where intimacy is possible. Readers have an opportunity to begin to "connect the dots" in their own relationship patterns by following the stories of four brave women. A newly added chapter on "Mother Hunger" explores the role of the mother in infancy and how she ultimately impacts a daughter's ability to have healthy intimate relationships later in life. Break free from the chains of addictive relationships that sabotage happiness and self-respect.

The Politics of Survivorship

4 St. Clair, William, 65 “Scared Silent: Expose and End Child Abuse,” 6–7, 10, 169, 176–82 Schreiber, Flora Rheta, 10, 91, 123, ... 40 in Mathilda, 75–76, 85 See also Secrecy Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners: ...

The Politics of Survivorship

The topic of incest began to emerge in the early 1990s, producing a spate of television specials and providing the material for a surging industry of talk shows as well as an anti-feminist campaign against incest survivors and their therapists. The validity, reality, and readability of recovered memories of incest has become a highly contested and difficult subject. This heightened interest has benefited incest survivors, according to Rosaria Champagne, by allowing them to speak up and make political their experiences. Victims, formerly entwined in their own abuse by remaining silent, have learned to voice their protest and to challenge the societal order that allows incest to occur. In The Politics of Survivorship Champagne explores a range of cultural representations of incest, from the writings of Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley to mother-daughter incest in contemporary true crime novels, to Oprah Winfrey's television special Scared Silent, in order to examine expressions of survivorship. In the process, Champagne attempts to level the disparity and the hierarchy of value among theory, literature, popular culture and social movements. Champagne makes a powerful argument that community and academic feminists should embrace survivorship as a potential site of feminist political intervention into patriarchy and heterosexism. She concludes with a critical look at the way in which the False Memory Syndrome Foundation has conducted an anti-feminist campaign against incest survivors and their therapists.

Encyclopedia of Domestic Violence

Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children PartnersiUnderstanding Covert Incest. New York: Bantam (reissue), 1991. Blume, E. Sue. Secret Survivors: Uncovering Incest and Its Afterefl'ects in Women. New York: Ballantine (reissue) ...

Encyclopedia of Domestic Violence

Collects entries on domestic violence that cover topics that include ritual abuse-torture and domestic violence against women with disabilities.

Using Books in Clinical Social Work Practice

Adams, Kenneth M. Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners—Understanding Covert Incest. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc., 1991. • The focus of this work is on the serious social problem of incest.

Using Books in Clinical Social Work Practice

Using Books in Clinical Social Work Practice: A Guide to Bibliotherapy introduces clinical social workers and other helping professionals to bibliotherapy, an innovative approach to helping individuals deal with psychological, social, and developmental problems. Literally meaning “treatment through books,” bibliotherapy actively involves the client in the therapeutic process through the reading of carefully selected and evaluated books. With this guide, the therapy you give will provide information and insight, stimulate discussion, communicate new values and attitudes, create awareness that others have similar problems, and provide solutions to problems. Using Books in Clinical Social Work Practice offers a detailed approach for helping clinicians use bibliotherapy in practice. You’ll discover which types of problems best respond to bibliotherapy and you’ll learn how to select the most effective books to treat those problems. You’ll even find the structure of the book helpful, as it: introduces you to the basics of bibliotherapy provides a detailed examination of the techniques for using books in treatment reviews and analyzes the extensive research that has been conducted on bibliotherapy focuses on the problems most effectively treated with bibliotherapy--divorce and remarriage, dysfunctional families, parenting, adoption and foster care, self-development, serious illness, substance abuse offers an authoritative guide to over 300 books found to work most effectively--including summaries and levels of interest presents conclusions and a summary for the use of books in treatment Although bibliotherapy is a well-established practice technique in other professions, including psychiatry and psychology, social work practitioners have not traditionally used bibliotherapy as part of their practice. Using Books in Clinical Social Work Practice gives today’s helping professional an approach to problem solving that you and your clients will find refreshing and effective.

Scars That Speak

created by a chronically troubled marriage or relationship, makes the child a surrogate partner. The boundary between caring and ... It is called Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners: Understanding Covert Incest.

Scars That Speak

Scars That Speak is the powerful and compelling account of one woman's battle to overcome her abusive childhood and the destructive behaviors and thinking patterns that developed as a result. Rochelle Murray writes with complete honesty as she evaluates her life in light of her past. Full of original poetry, journal writings, and art work, Scars That Speak offers the reader a glimpse into the mind of a woman struggling to triumph over emotional, physical, and sexual abuse. The uniqueness of this book lies in the fact that it was written as her therapy progressed, which allows the reader to walk with Rochelle along her journey. Her story is captivating and poignant, gripping the reader from the outset. Rochelle's therapeutic relationship with a Christian psychologist provided the support that she needed to break free from her addiction to cutting, and enabled her to face her fears and the memories of her childhood. Her scars speak loudly of the fact that the past can be confronted, truth can be discovered, and strength and healing can be attained. This book is so much more than just another book about cutting. An estimated two million Americans purposefully cut themselves each year - Rochelle used to be among their number. Her self-destructiveness started when she was sexually abused by her grandfather. Her narcissistic mother also played a major role in her self-destructive behavior. Could therapy be the answer? Could she find her voice? Could truth be told? Join Rochelle on her therapeutic journey as she struggles to find healing and the reward of joy.

Out of the Shadows

Their book Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child (HarperPerennial, ... Kenneth M. Adams's Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners (Health Communications, 1991) has been a gift.

Out of the Shadows

Unhooked from regular routines and healthy relationships by the coronavirus pandemic or other traumas, even our most basic human impulses and inputs can become addictive and destructive. An essential resource for those struggling with sexual addiction and compulsions, and those who love them. With the revised information and up-to-date research, Out of the Shadows is the premier work on sex addiction, written by a pioneer in its treatment. Sex is at the core of our identities. And when it becomes a compulsion, it can unravel our lives. Out of the Shadows is the premier work on this disorder, written by a pioneer in its treatment. Revised and updated to include the latest research--and to address the exploding phenomenon of cybersex addiction--this third edition identifies the danger signs, explains the dynamics, and describes the consequences of sexual addiction and dependency. With practical wisdom and spiritual clarity, it points the way out of the shadows of sexual compulsion and back into the light and fullness of life.

Intimate Deception

Alexis discovered it was okay to own her own feelings: I began reading a book by Dr. Ken Adams called Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners. I realized Mom used me to make herself feel better.

Intimate Deception

Nothing destroys trust like sexual betrayal. Beyond broken vows, a woman who discovers that the man she loves has been viewing pornography or having an affair must deal with devastating blows to her self-image and self-worth. She must grapple with the fact that the man she thought she knew has lied and deceived her. She may even bear the brunt of shame and judgment when the people around her find out. Drawing from her experience both as a marriage and family therapist and a woman who personally experienced the devastation of sexual betrayal, Dr. Sheri Keffer walks women impacted by betrayal through the pain and toward recovery. She explains how the trauma of betrayal affects our minds, bodies, spirits, and sexuality. She offers practical tools for dealing with emotional triggers and helps women understand the realities of sexual addiction. And she shows women how to practice self-care, develop healthy boundaries, protect themselves from abuse or manipulation, and find freedom from the burden of shame and guilt.

Always Turned On

—Dr. Kenneth M. Adams, author of Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners and When He's Married to Mom: How to Help Mother Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and Commitment and co-editor of Clinical ...

Always Turned On

Technology has significantly changed our world. Sexual imagery and encounters can now be accessed anywhere, anytime, using portable electronic devices. Users can generate a stream of graphic pornography, a wide variety of virtual sexual activities, and casual, anonymous, or paid-for sexual encounters with a click or a tap. We now have greater access to highly stimulating sexual content and potential sexual partners with much less built-in accountability. Porn addicts are especially vulnerable to the lure of digital technology and the seemingly endless array of stimulation it provides. Research suggests that cyber-porn addicts spend at least eleven or twelve hours per week online viewing porn. Today, all forms of sex addiction are technology driven—from porn websites to webcams to casual sex hook-up apps via smartphones. Sex addicts organize their lives around the pursuit of sexual activity with self or others, spending inordinate amounts of time viewing and masturbating to porn or planning, pursuing, and engaging in sex acts. At the same time, they neglect important relationships, work, and personal responsibilities. Overwhelming feelings of guilt, shame, and remorse invade when the acting out ends. While it's complicated, recovery is possible. Always Turned On shows readers how to turn those temptations off while providing practical long-term solutions for recovery.

Why Black Lives Matter

In his book Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners, Dr. Kenneth Adams describes what he coins as “covert incest” in contrast to the physically abusive overt incest: Covert incest occurs when a child becomes the ...

Why Black Lives Matter

Beginning with a conversation prompted by African American scholars like Dr. Alvin Poussaint of Harvard Medical School in 2007, to the current Black Lives Matter movement, there has been much debate about what led to the deaths of Trayvon Martin and Michael Brown, among others, as well as other systemic challenges that undermine black thriving. Anthony Bradley has assembled a team of scholars and religious leaders to provide a distinctly Christian perspective on what is needed for black communities to thrive from within. In addition to the social and structural issues that must be addressed, within black communities there are opportunities for social change based on God’s vision for human flourishing. Covering topics like the black family, hip-hop, mental health, mentoring women, masculinity, and the church, this book will open your eyes to fresh ways to participate in solutions that will truly set black America free. Although the Black Lives Matter movement keeps the church on the margins, the authors in this volume believe that enduring change cannot happen unless God speaks directly to these issues in light of the gospel. With contributions from: Vincent Bacote Bruce Fields Rev. Howard Brown Ralph C. Watkins Rev. Eric M. Mason Rev. Lance Lewis Rev. Anthony Carter Ken Jones Natalie Haslem Rev. Ken Jones Rihana Mason Yvonne RB-Banks

Sandcastles

I now know that what my father did to me is covert incest, and what my mother did to me in making me her therapist ... Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners — Understanding Covert Incest by Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D.; ...

Sandcastles

Tired of yoyo dieting and falling off the wagon? There is no magic bullet for curing addiction – it’s about doing the work – and Janet Stegman can help. After 35 years’ experience with 12-Step Programs and extensive study in healing modalities such as Journaling, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), and Inner Child Work, Janet has healed herself of addiction and is now ready to help you. Janet does not have a treat-the-symptom, Band-Aid type of approach: Her method permanently removes your addiction through finding the cause and solving the problem once and for all, and then you get your life back. Rather than constantly struggling and being a “recovering addict”, Janet helps you get to the cause of your addiction and dismantle it.

Addictions From an Attachment Perspective

Silently Seduced: When Parents Make their Children Partners, Understanding Covert Incest. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications. Adams, K. M., & Morgan, A. P. (2007). When he's Married to Mom: How to Help Mother Enmeshed Men Open ...

Addictions From an Attachment Perspective

This outstanding book is an important collection of papers from the 2013 John Bowlby Memorial Conference by accomplished clinicians from different modalities who share their experience of working with people with different kinds of addiction. The papers bring together an in-depth understanding that addictions are a response to, and hold the pain of, broken attachments and are best treated within healthy interpersonal relationships. For a long time the person with an addiction has been seen as the problem with society being able to live in denial of the causes. These papers open up innovative and effective ways of working with people troubled by addiction from an attachment-informed perspective. Contributors: Cara Crossan, Richard Gill, Lynn Greenwood, Bob Johnson, Liz Karter, Edward Khantzian, Arlene Vetere, Kate White, Jason Wright

Mother Hunger

Kenneth Adams , Silently Seduced : When Parents Make Their Children Partners ( Deerfield Beach , FL : Health Communications , Inc. , 2011 ) . 7. Patricia A. De Young , Understanding and Treating Chronic Shame : A Relational ...

Mother Hunger

An insatiable need for sex and love. Periods of overeating or starving. A pattern of unstable and painful relationships. Does this sound painfully familiar? Trauma counselor Kelly McDaniel has seen these traits over and over in clients who feel trapped in cycles of harmful behaviors-and are unable to stop. Many of us find ourselves stuck in unhealthy habits simply because we don't see a better way. With Mother Hunger, McDaniel helps women break the cycle of destructive behavior by taking a fresh look at childhood trauma and its lasting impact. In doing so, she destigmatizes the shame that comes with being under-mothered and misdiagnosed. McDaniel offers a healing path with powerful tools that include therapeutic interventions and lifestyle changes in service to healthy relationships. The constant search for mother love can be a lifelong emotional burden, but healing begins with knowing and naming what we are missing. McDaniel is the first clinician to identify Mother Hunger, which demystifies the search for love and provides the compass that each woman needs to end the struggle with achy, lonely emptiness, and come home to herself.

Clinical Management of Sex Addiction

Silently seduced: When parents make their children partners: Understanding covert incest. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications. Carnes, P. ]. (1991). Don't call it love: Recovery from sexual addiction. New York: Bantam.

Clinical Management of Sex Addiction

This is the first comprehensive volume of the clinical management of sex addiction. Collecting the work of 28 leaders in this emerging field, the editors provide a long-needed primary text about how to approach treatment with these challenging patients. The book serves as an excellent introduction for professionals new to the field as well as serving as a useful reference tool. The contributors are literally the pioneers of one of the last frontiers of addiction medicine and sex therapy. With a growing awareness of sex addiction as a problem, plus the advent of cybersex compulsion, professional clinicians are being confronted with sexual compulsion with little clinical or academic preparation. This is the first book distilling the experience of the leaders in this emerging field. With a focus on special populations, it also becomes a handy problem-solving tool. Readable, concise, and filled with useful interventions, it is a key text for a problem clinicians must be able to identify. It is destined to be a classic reference.

Understanding and Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction

for all, some love addicts may also be more vulnerable to seduction as this may have played a role in their acting ... References Adams, K.M. (2011) Silently Seduced: When parents make their children partners, Health Communications Inc.

Understanding and Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction

Understanding and Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction demonstrates why people’s lives are being destroyed by compulsive sexual behaviour and what we can do to help them. The book examines the latest research into these conditions and outlines the new integrative C.H.O.I.C.E. Recovery Model, a practical, sex-positive model which incorporates CBT, ACT and psychodynamic theories to help people enjoy lifetime recovery. This new edition has been updated throughout, with new material covering pornography addiction, ChemSex, internet offending and female sex and love addiction. Written in a clear and informative manner, this book contains support and advice for both the clinician and for those who suffer from sex addiction, and provides tools for securing confident and rewarding recovery. Understanding and Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction is essential reading for anyone looking to make an enduring recovery from these conditions, as well as for clinicians new to the field and those wanting to update their skills and knowledge.

Contesting Stories of Childhood Sexual Abuse

Adams, K (1991) Silently seduced: When parents make their children partners – Understanding covert incest Deerfield Beech, Fl: Health Communications Inc. Ainscough, C and Toon, K (1993) Breaking free: Help for survivors of child sexual ...

Contesting Stories of Childhood Sexual Abuse

Located within a burgeoning therapeutic/self-help culture this book explores stories of childhood sexual abuse, 'recovered memories' and multiple personalities, and explodes the myths surrounding women who, without memories, redefine themselves as victims.

Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys

Reclaiming the Inner Child. Los Angeles: Jeremy Tarcher, 1990. Adams, Kenneth. Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, 1991. American Psychiatric Association.

Raising Emotionally Healthy Boys

As society redefines our ideas of masculinity, the lessons we teach our children are lagging behind. It's become commonplace to think of men as "closed off," while women are often expected to show a broader range of emotional expression. Parents need to have a serious conversation about this, for the sake of our boys and the men they will become.

How to Find Your Way Out When In Despair

... Ph.D. Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children Partners by Kenneth M. Adams, Ph.D. The Art of Thinking Clearly by Rolf Dobelli The Road to Character by David Brooks They F*** You Up: How to Survive Family Life by Oliver ...

How to Find Your Way Out When In Despair

A candid, personal account of one man's experience with anxiety and depression.

Sex Addiction as Affect Dysregulation A Neurobiologically Informed Holistic Treatment Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology

Silently seduced: When parents make their children partners (2nd ed.). Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications. Adams, K. M., & Morgan, A. P. (2007). When he's married to mom: How to help motherenmeshed men open their hearts to true ...

Sex Addiction as Affect Dysregulation  A Neurobiologically Informed Holistic Treatment  Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology

Examining the neurobiological underpinnings of sex addiction. Neuroaffective science—studying the integrated development of the body, brain, and mind—has revealed mechanisms linking psychological and biological factors of mental disorders, including addiction. Indeed, its paradigm-shifting theoretical umbrella demonstrated that substance and behavioral dependencies share identical neurobiological workings, and thus that problematic repetitive behaviors are genuine addictions—a state increasingly understood as a chronic brain disorder. Clinical experience strongly suggests that sex addiction (SA) treatment informed by affective neuroscience—the specialty of Alexandra Katehakis—proves profoundly transformative. Katehakis's relational protocol, presented here, blends neurobiology with psychology to accomplish full recovery. Her Psychobiological Approach to Sex Addiction Treatment (PASAT) joins therapist and patient through a relationally-based psychotherapy—a holistic, dyadic dance that calls on the body, brain, and mind of both. Written with clarity and compassion, this book integrates cutting-edge research, case studies, verbatim session records, and patient writings and art. Katehakis explicates neurophysiological, psychological, and cultural forces priming and maintaining SA, then details how her innovative treatment restores patients' interpersonal, sexual, and spiritual relationality.