"Is it the world that's busy, or is it my mind?" The world moves fast, but that doesn't mean we have to. In this timely guide to mindfulness, Haemin Sunim, a Buddhist monk born in Korea and educated in the United States, offers advice on everything from handling setbacks to dealing with relationships and loved ones, in a beautiful book combining his teachings with calming full-colour illustrations. Even as we speed toward what comes next, Haemin Sunim's messages of encouragement speak directly to the anxieties that have become part of modern life and remind us of the strength and joy that come from slowing down. Overwhelmingly popular in his native Korea, Haemin Sunim is a spiritual leader whose teachings transcend religions and borders and resonate with people of all ages. With insight and compassion drawn from a life full of change, he shows, as millions have seen, he succeeds at encouraging all of us to notice that when you slow down, the world slows down with you.
The Sunday Times Bestseller: How to Accept Yourself in a World Striving for Perfection
Author: Haemin Sunim
Pubpsher: Penguin UK
Category: Body, Mind & Spirit
A beautiful guide for learning to love ourselves, from the author of the internationally bestselling The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down No one is perfect. But that doesn't stop us from imagining ourselves smarter, funnier, richer, or thinner, and how much happier we would then be. Love for Imperfect Things, by the bestselling Korean monk, Haemin Sunim, shows how the path to happiness and peace of mind includes not only strong relationships with others, but also letting go of worries about ourselves. Packed with his typical spiritual wisdom, Sunim teaches us to embrace our flaws rather than trying to overcome them, and demonstrates that love has very little to do with perfection. With chapters on self-compassion, relationships, empathy, courage, family, healing, our true nature, and acceptance, as well as beautiful full-colour illustrations, Love for Imperfect Things is a much-needed guide for learning to love ourselves - imperfections and all. 'Universal truths, beautifully expressed, lovingly illustrated . . . this is a book to keep close at hand' - Mark Williams, co-author of 'Mindfulness: Finding Peace in a Frantic World', on 'The Things You Can See' 'A remarkable gift, a compendium of practical wisdom. It is accessible brilliance' - Allan Lokos, founder and guiding teacher, Community Meditation Center, NYC, on 'The Things You Can See'
In Shamanic Dimensions of Psychotherapy: Healing through the Symbolic Process, Robin van Löben Sels uniquely and honestly recounts her personal journey toward a shamanic understanding of psychotherapy. Exploring the disruptive breakthrough of visions and dreams that occurred during her analysis, personal life, and psychoanalytic training, van Löben Sels illustrates how the phenomenology of ancient shamanism is still alive and how it is a paradigm for the emergence and maturation of the psyche in people today. This original book delves into van Löben Sels’s personal experience of the shaman, identifying such eruptions as a contemporary version of the archaic shaman’s initiatory call to vocation. The book is split into two parts. It begins by outlining the shamanic personality in history, recognizing this as an individual that has been called out of a collectively sanctioned identity into a creative life, and the unconscious shaman complex they consequently face, especially in psychotherapeutic relationships. Practical as well as theoretical, the second part outlines the shamanic attributes that underline psychotherapeutic relationships - silence, sound, mask, rhythm, gesture, movement, and respiration - and usefully describes how to use them as asanas for consciousness, or vehicles toward psychological awareness. With clinical examples and personal stories throughout, this book’s unique Jungian perspective addresses contemporary expressions of the shaman complex in our current world. Shamanic Dimensions of Psychotherapy: Healing through the Symbolic Process will be essential reading for Jungian analysts and psychotherapists in practice and in training, as well as for academics and students of Jungian and post-Jungian studies. It will be especially helpful and illuminating to those who have experienced an involuntary plunge into the depths and who seek ways to articulate their experience.
The path to good care-giving can be challenging, particularly where practices are characterised by crisis, moral panic and cultural complexity. How can we respond ethically when there is pressure to meet targets, work faster and implement quick, short-term fixes? This book offers a solution in the form of slow ethics.
'A must-read for anyone interested in the art of intuitively knowing what others feel.' Haemin Sunim, author of The Things You Can See Only When You Slow Down and Love for Imperfect Things 'A lovely book to have in your home and your lives.' Chris Evans, Breakfast Show ___________________________ Nunchi (noon-chee): eye measure. The subtle art of gauging other people's thoughts, and feelings in order to build trust, harmony and connection. ___________________________ Why did she get promoted? Why does the party only start when he walks in? And why do they always catch the bartender’s eye? It sounds like they’re all experts in the art of nunchi, even if they don’t know it. Nunchi is the guiding principle of Korean life, but anyone can use it: it’s the art of reading a room, your way of understanding what other people are thinking and feeling, and using that to get ahead. Korean parents believe that teaching their children nunchi is as important as teaching them to cross the road safely. With great nunchi, it feels like the world is on your side. Without it, you might get hit by something you never saw coming. If you’re thinking ‘not another Eastern fad, Marie Kondo already made me throw half my clothes away’, don’t worry: it’s not a fad. Koreans have been using nunchi to overcome slings and arrows for over 5000 years. The great news is that anyone can hone their nunchi, immediately: all you need are your eyes and ears. In everything, from finding love to excelling at work, improving your nunchi will help you to open doors you never knew existed. Improve your nunchi, improve your life. ___________________________ 'Whip-smart, hilarious, and filled with eye-opening insights on every page.' Amy Chua, author of Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother 'Beautifully written and filled with actionable advice . . . It really feels like having a superpower!' Héctor García, co-author of Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life ‘Nunchi is the Korean superpower you need now’ Evening Standard ‘We could all help ourselves by practising the ancient art of Nunchi’ The Times
Award-winning couples therapist Peter Fraenkel argues that most relationship problems can be traced to partners being out of sync on the powerful but mostly hidden dimension of time. Differences in daily rhythms, personal pace, punctuality, time perspective, and priorities about how time is allocated can all lead to couple conflict. Yet the fascinating fact is that these polarizing time differences play a potent role in attracting lovers in the first place. In this trailblazing new book, he draws on his original research to show how a clearer understanding of these forces can improve the health of your relationship and even rescue a failing one.
This book is a group of poems I have compiled on my journey of healing God has brought to my life. When I asked God to forgive me for the life I had lived and to come into my life He did. However, just because I had invited Him into my life and given my heart to Him didn’t mean my life was perfect. I had so much emotional baggage from the way I had chosen to deal with life. God made us to have emotions. He made us to feel, hurt, laugh, cry, and be angry. He wants us to use these emotions by sharing them with Him and others in a healthy way. He doesn’t give us feelings to shove down into the depths of our soul or numb them with things. Unfortunately, that’s easier to do than express them. We turn to alcohol, drugs, materialism, unhealthy relationships, food, and anything else we can. Pain is a part of life and if we neglect it; it festers and remains. We can carry it around for years and it will come out in many different and disastrous ways. God wants us to allow Him into our pain so He can heal us and use us. When I opened my heart completely to Him the process began. I didn’t know it would come out in the form of poetry or even that I would write anything down. I do know that I felt compelled to write and I did. I cried a lot. I received relief and restoration from storing years of bad decisions, pain, and consequences. I would like to dedicate this book to my brother William Boling III and my best friend Robin Baird Bramblett. Both of their deaths have made the strongest impacts on my life. William’s death took me deeper into sin, muck, and mire by choice. Instead of our family drawing close to God and each other to deal with it we all went our separate ways with our pain. Robin’s death and the pain from it caused an awakening in my soul to stop taking life for granted. I had already given my life to God, but I wasn’t living like it. I wasn’t giving life all I have or the important relationships in my life. I am also thankful for my husband and children who have been Jesus to me through it all. I am thankful that God led me to a church that prayed for me. I am thankful for every person who has been a part of my journey. Those who have hurt me, loved me, or helped me. I am thankful for my pain because without it I wouldn’t have needed a Healer or a Savior to help me. In closing, I also want to dedicate this book to the youth. I pray that somehow the words of this book will inspire them not to squander themselves, their time, or their talents for the fleeing pleasures of this world. I pray they will turn to God and do extraordinary things by following His plans for them instead of their own. ** 1 Timothy 4:12 don’t let anyone despise you in your youth, but set an example for the believers in speech, in life, .in love, and in purity. **2 Timothy 2:22 so fl ee youthful passions and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord from a pure heart. ** Jeremiah 29:11 “for I know the plans I have for you, “ says the Lord “They are plans for good and not disaster, to give you a future and a hope. “